I think I can I know I can

A smile and some flowers

I know I can, I think I can, I know I can I think I can…Maybe I can’t. I’ll just clean that floor, phone my friend Julie, and the grass needs mowing.  Why do so many of our best intentions end in procrastination or a negative result? How many of us say things like I wish I could do that but never put things into practice. If we just chanelled as much positive energy into ourselves as we did the mundane we would all be as happy as Larry, whoever Larry is. Positivity takes practice and normally like most things it’s the starting that beats us all.

Being positive and sunny is not about being perfect, beautiful and polished, it’s what makes you feel comfortable and this is what lies at the heart of the matter. We just love to judge ourselves. I have never met a person who has never judged themselves unfairly. Turning those negatives patterns into positives can be a right royal pain in the backside. Why do all the blogs tell us to look in the mirror and like what you see? Personally I stopped looking directly in the mirror many years ago and that’s when I found happiness with who I was. The exterior changed so frequently it agitated my interior and that wouldn’t do at all. Could clothes, make up, a new hair style, jewellery or perfume enhance or change your demeanour? The answer is of course but only temporarily. How many people buy full running regalia only to give up after the first attempt? As my P.E teacher once said “the shoes don’t make the runner”.

So why do we hate to look at the inside. Again perspective can be a very clever little deceiver which leads us back to old tricks. Maybe it’s because we have never been taught to like ourselves, others yes but ourselves? Surely that’s way too indulgent?  Wrong, there’s the negativity setting in again. We are but a picture and if we spend the day focusing on all the positives rather than the negatives then I urge you to watch what happens – It will start with a smile. Today I remember my daughter telling me she loves me and that I am the best mummy, a naughty smile from my husband, a friend thanking me for my help, a really beautiful comment on Facebook and all of this was before I started work. All the other things fitted into place and before too long I had breezed through my day without much effort. This isn’t to say that all our problems will disappear but it will help us focus to overcome them, challenge them and then learn from.

If you need help with old and negative patterns or just want to help establish a change the Axminster Health & Wellbeing Centre www.axminsterwellbeing.com has an abundance to offer: Counselling, Hypnotherapy and Mindfulness to name a few. Being stuck does not have to be a way of life and unlocking that positive potential could have dramatic effects on your life. Or why not volunteer at the Centre and work in a positive and calming environment. And while you are here you could learn many new things.